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10 Body Language Tips That Will Exude Charisma

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Body Language Tips That Exude Charisma and Success

Have you ever looked at someone and thought, “Wow, he looks like he bleeds money?” If so, this perception you have about the person probably has a lot to do with his/her body language.

Your nonverbal communication is the first clue strangers use to form their first impression of you. Even when we’re not speaking, we’re still communicating with our posture, facial expressions and gestures.

 

10 Body Language Tips That Exude Charisma

If you want to have successful interactions, you must understand how others perceive us.

These 10 body language tips will not only boost your confidence, they’ll also help you develop habits that will help you exude success and charisma in your life.

 

1. Sit Up Straight

Slouching is a sign of disrespect because it says that you’re either bored or have no interest of being where you are.

When you sit or stand up straight, you not only fill the space around you in a charismatic way, but you’re also conveying success. This is because being in an upright position with your shoulders back is a power position. People who sit up straight seem confident and ready to take action.

To do this comfortably, relax your shoulders and place your feet less than shoulder length apart. You should feel as though you are leaning back against the back of a chair without having it there.

Next time you feel like slouching, remember that it is a result of collapsing your form – you’re taking up less space and projecting to be powerless.

 

2. Lean In

When you lean in, people feel as though they are being listened to, which is important. When you respond to the person, you may naturally lean back slightly. This gives the other person a chance to also lean in to show he/she is interested.

 

3. Make Gestures

Gestures can show people you’re competent.

During a presentation, don’t be afraid to show people what you’re referring to or use your hands to communicate with them. People feel as though you’re personable and know what you’re talking about when they see how comfortable you are with your gestures.

But on the other hand, exaggerating your gestures can imply that you’re stretching the truth. Spreading your arms apart or gesturing with your palms exposed communicates that you have nothing to hide.

 

4. Laugh, Smile, and Nod

While the business you’re conducting is serious, you don’t have to keep a serious face the entire time. Relax a bit to show people you are paying attention and agree with them.

You can nod when you understand what the person is talking about, smile when you appreciate the person’s thoughts, and laugh when the person makes a joke.

 

5. Use Appropriate Eye Contact

Eye contact is so important, as long as you use it appropriately. Why do you think people say it’s important to maintain eye contact with the police officer when you’re pulled over? You should be maintaining eye contact 60-70% of the time.

The average length of time that people maintain eye contact is reported to be 7-10 seconds.

Keeping your eyes level with the person you’re communicating with shows them you’re confident and sure of yourself. This will help especially if you’re explaining/presenting a difficult or valuable message.

Remember to not overdo it, though. If you never break eye contact with someone, they may perceive you as awkward or confrontational. Be sure to take breaks by looking away from time to time. Since looking down can make you seem secretive or week, turn your gaze to the side instead.

 

6. Give a Firm Handshake

Handshakes can tell someone a lot about you. Too loose and you seem incompetent or lack confidence; too hard and you’re aggressive and wound up tight, making it difficult to work with you.

The perfect handshake is one in which you don’t shake the person’s hand, but instead hold the hand and gentle apply pressure. It’s a good idea to wait until the other person lets go because letting go too early can send the message that you’re in a rush.

Weak handshakes are also a sign indicating a lack of authority and confidence. Adapt your handshake to each situation and person, making sure it’s always firm without being aggressive.

 

7. Mirror the Other Person’s Body Language

People like people who are like them.

Body language can help you seem much more like the person you’re speaking with. Research shows that when we imitate other people’s nonverbal cues, we can actually understand the emotions they are experiencing a lot better. If the person is leaning in, you should do the same.

If the person has a hand on his/her face, you should also do it.

These should be casual movements so the person doesn’t catch on to what you are doing. Plus, mimicking facial expressions will make the other person feel an increase of positive feelings from the interaction.

 

8. Never Cross Your Arms or Legs

When you cross your arms and legs, it means you’re closed off.

When they are not, it means you’re open to what others are saying.

You’re welcoming them in, which can be quite attractive. Even if you’re smiling or engaged in a nice conversation, the person you’re talking to may get a sense that you’re shutting them out.

Resist that urge to fold your arms if you want others to view you as open-minded and interested in what they are doing or saying.

 

9. Stand Arm’s Length Away

Standing too close will make people feel uncomfortable, and standing too far away can mean you’re not confident. Standing about arm’s length away will show you are willing to speak to the person and engage.

 

10. Be Mindful of Your Blinking

This can be a tricky one because blinking is involuntary, and when you try to control it, you may look unnatural. However, blinking too much is a sign you’re uncomfortable with the conversation you’re having with the person.

Try to relax, and if you find yourself blinking more than usual, try closing your eyes for just a moment and reopening to see if it may slow them down.

 

Summary

This list of body language tips will hopefully help you exude success and charisma! In case you haven’t seen our other article yet on some of the negative body languages you should avoid, check it out.

Which do you feel is the most important body language tip on this list? Leave a comment below.

Anum Yoon is a writer and blogger with a passion for money management and a productive lifestyle. You can also find Anum on her personal blog, Current on Currency, and subscribe to her blog newsletter right here.

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Top 45 Self-Improvement Blogs For Men 2018

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Top 45 Self Improvement Blogs For Men

Wealthy Gorilla’s top blogs are back for 2018!

This year, we have our new entry to our collections of top blogs to follow, and that’s the best self-improvement blogs for men.

This isn’t something we’ve covered in previous years; however for the 55% of our audience who are male, we thought that showcasing a list of the top self-improvement blogs specifically designed for men, would be a great idea.

We’ve scoured the web, and tracked down what we believe to be the 45 best self-improvement blogs for men to be reading. These blogs are perfect for guys looking improve their lives in every area, including productivity, mindset, success, dating, sex, style, you name it.

Check out our similar articles here:

 

Top 45 Self-Improvement Blogs For Men

Without further ado, is the complete list of the best self-improvement blogs for men. These haven’t been ranked in any particular order, so don’t forget the blogs towards the bottom of the list.

They’re all filled with useful information and advice!

 

1. Good Men Project

Founded by Tom Matlack – The Good Men Project is one of the leading self-improvement blogs specifically for men. There’s so much wonderful info for men to improve their lives, you have to see it for yourself.

 

2. MenProvement

Founded by Sean Russell – MenProvement has an awesome collection of articles to help any man become the best version of themselves. Their podcast and academy are also rapidly evolving. The site now receives over a million views per month.

 

3. Daily Manliness

Founded by Unknown – Daily Manliness has some solid content on all kinds of areas that would interest guys: Dating, technology, lifestyle, sports etc. They also feature some unusual, yet bad-ass quote collection you definitely need to check out.

Do you know the founder of Daily Manliness? Get in contact with us so we can add them to the article.

 

4. Mode

Founded by Unknown – Mode is a platform curates stories/articles from around the web. It’s not just a platform for men, but they have an awesome category that helps guys to improve their life.

Do you know the founder of Mode? Get in contact with us so we can add them to the article.

 

5. Return of Kings

Founded by Daryush Valizadeh – Return of Kings is another awesome self-improvement blog for men, and it offers great tips and stories on masculinity and male culture. Definitely a great blog for any man to follow.

 

6. Order of Man

Founded by Ryan Michler – I follow Ryan on Facebook, and love some of the stuff he’s featuring on Order of Man. Check out their latest articles on self-improvement, and don’t forget to listen to the podcast!

 

7. How to Beast

Founded by David De Las Morenas – How to Beast targets the fitness aspect of self-improvement for men. His blog has two main areas of specialty. How to get jacked, and how to get confident.

 

8. Charisma on Command

Founded by Charlie Houpert – Charisma on Command is designed to help guys achieve more confidence and charisma in their lives, therefore improving their overall happiness and success. Charlie coaches people on doing just that, and currently lives in Las Vegas.

 

9. Strength by Sonny

Founded by Sonny Arvado – Strength by Sonny is another self-improvement blog that doesn’t specifically target just men. There is some great content for people of any gender. The general advice is geared towards improving your mindset and your social skills, bodybuilding advice, business advice and dating advice.

 

10. FitMole

Founded by Keith Lai – FitMole contains some awesome fitness advice to help men transform their bodies and get in shape. There’s also some other ‘cool shit’ thrown in here and there.

 

11. Art of Manliness

Founded by Brett McKay – I love the retro theme of Art of Manliness. It really gives the blog that masculinity, and you can pretty much learn awesome new info in all areas to help you become a true man.

 

12. Alpha Male Lifestyle

Founded by Unknown – Alpha Male Lifestyle contains some great guides on becoming more attractive to women, and mastering your dating and sex life. They also have some great tips on style, grooming, and other lifestyle topics.

 

13. Attract Get Women

Founded by Unknown – Attract Get Women is an awesome resource for advice on sex, dating and becoming more attractive. This is definitely another of the top self-improvement blogs for men.

Do you know the founder? Contact us so we can add their name to the list.

 

14. Compassionate Man

Founded by Nick Coughlin – Compassionate Man is an online magazine that features everything guys love. Not just advice on self-improvement, but also on hobbies, sports and such.

 

15. Aspiring Gentleman

Founded by Jason Batansky – Aspiring Gentleman is geared towards entertainment, travel, style and tech. The ultimate hub for any enthusiastic man.

 

16. The Quintessential Man

Founded by Andrian Red – The Quintessential man has some awesome self-improvement, and social life advice for men. Go over to their site and download their list of the 30 most influential books for men.

 

17. The Modest Man

Founded by Brock McGoff – If you’re looking for advice on style and fashion, head on over to The Modest Man to see what they have for you. Style still classes as self-improvement, and this deserves to be a top self-improvement blog for men.

 

18. Illimitable Men

Founded by Unknown – The illimitable man says: “this blog allows me to help wayward souls and direct them toward the path to greatness. If I can share what I’ve learned in my life’s journey to assist some of my fellow-men, why not?”

 

19. Man Thesis

Founded by Unknown – Man Thesis provides some very interesting points on being able to seduce and attract beautiful women. You can check out their eBook for more seduction secrets.

Do you know the founder of this blog? Let us know!

 

20. Effortless Gent

Founded by Barron Cuadro – Effortless Gent is another of the top self-improvement blogs for men, that specifically focuses on improving your look and personal style. Definitely another one to follow for style advice.

 

21. Good Looking Loser

Founded by Christopher Deoudes – What was most interesting about Good Looking Loser, was Chris’ story. Whether he knows that or not is another thing, but it’s worth a read.

 

22. The Minimalists

Founded by Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus – The minimalists focuses on exactly what you’d think. Learning how live life more simply.

 

23. Bulletproof Exec

Founded by Dave Asprey – You may have heard of Bulletproof coffee. Well they also have an excellent self-improvement blog for both men and women. Definitely check out the blog, and the coffee if you haven’t done so already.

 

24. GQ

Founded by Bernard Miller – GQ is the long-time, world-famous website targeted towards men. Every sbject men would love to hear about, it’s in there. I’m sure your familiar with the magazine, and may even read it regularly.

 

25. Day Game

Founded by Yad Bar – Day Game teaches averages guys to be able to talk to and seduce beautiful girls. Yad backs up his statements, and the homepage even includes a few awesome video clips.

 

26. Mantelligence

Founded by Kyle Boureston – Mantelligence is another blog 100% specifically for men, that also features a women’s perspective, to strengthen the overall advice given. They also offer regular giveaways, which is always a good thing to get in on.

 

27. Man of Many

Founded by Frank Arthur & Scott Purcell – Man of Many is a men’s lifestyle and fashion blog, with a bunch of other cool stuff thrown in there. Some great reads for any man.

 

28. Ape to Gentleman

Founded by Unknown – Ape to Gentleman is an excellent grooming and fashion blog for men. There’s a lot of different product reviews featured on the blog, usually in the grooming section such as colognes, and sometimes within entertainment such as headphones.

 

29. Man Packs

Founded by Ken Johnson & Andrew Draper – Man Packs puts together different selections of grooming products for men, into various packages. Give them as gifts, buy them for yourself, Man Packs knows what’s best.

 

30. Nick Notas

Founded by Nick Notas – Nick is a dating coach, and offers great services to help men become a lot more confident with women and themselves in general. His blog has some great advice you should checkout.

 

31. David Wygant

Founded by David Wygant – David offers great dating advice, not just for men, but also for women. He’s been seen on MTV, Millionaire Matchmaker, Huffington Post, Fox and more! Check out his blog for more info.

 

32. Samuel Thomas Davies

Founded by Sam Thomas Davies – Sam scouts the leading edge of the human sciences for what’s new, surprising, and important in life and business. Then he reveals what distinguishes experts from amateurs so you too can achieve greatness.

 

33. Tripp Advice

Founded by Tripp Kramer – Tripp’s latest article is about picking up Asian women when you don’t speak the same language. Having just spent 7 months in Asia, naturally I loved the article! Check out his blog for more awesome stuff like this.

 

34. Real Christian McQueen

Founded by Christian McQueen – The opening line on Christian’s blog: “A man’s guide to a better life.” You can’t help but follow a blog when that’s the number one aim. Christian also offers coaching for men looking to improve their lives.

 

35. MSI College

Founded by Unknown – I love MSI College. There’s so much great content, self improvement, success, and being great with women. Head on over to learn more. They’ve got a little something for everyone.

 

36. Love Life Solved

Founded by Julian Reisinger – What’s great about Love Life Solved is that the content also comes from a women’s perspective, as Julian’s partner Kristina also runs the blog with him.

 

37. Men’s Health

Founded by Mark Bricklin – We’re all familiar with Men’s Health. It’s one of the most popular Men’s magazines, and helps men improve their health and their bodies.

 

38. Doctor Nerd Love

Founded by Harris O’Malley – Dr. NerdLove dispenses love, sex and life advice for geeks, otaku, dweebs, poozers, nerds and the occasional neo-maxie-zoom-dweebie. Making geeks sexier since 2011.

 

39. Paul McGregor

Founded by Paul McGregor – His blog is geared towards helping men become the best version of themselves. There’s some top notch advice to help you excel in your career, improve your mindset, and improve yourself in general.

 

40. Real Men Real Style

Founded by Antonio Centeno – Real Men Real Style has some incredible content on becoming more stylish. There’s articles, resources, download, courses. Everything you need to become a stylish man.

 

41. Urban Beardsman

Founded by Eric Bandholz – Urban Beardsman is a style blog for men. If you currently have a beard or are looking to grow one, you might want to check out this site for some tips and help on the subject.

 

42. Seduction Science

Founded by Jesse Charger – Seduction Science is a pickup blog, with awesome advice being able to seduce beautiful women, and become better at sex and dating in general.

 

43. Anabolic Men

Founded by Ali Kuoppala & Christopher Walker – Anabolic men is such a cool resource for men who are looking to improve their fitness and boost testosterone levels. If this sounds like something you’re interested in, get involved.

 

44. Peak Testosterone

Founded by Lee Myer – Peak Testosterone is a blog that targets men’s health, and covers a range of articles within the health niche, particularly on testosterone. For any guy looking to learn more about testosterone, this is another great self-improvement blog to check out.

 

45. Masculine Intent

Founded by Chris Bale – Masculine intent is last but not least on this list of top blogs for men. I’ve been following Chris on Facebook for a while now, and I love the transparent way in which he gives advice.

 

In Conclusion

That concludes this incredible collection of the top self-improvement blogs for men. If you’re a guy who’s looking to improve his life in any of the following areas, then you need to definitely check these blogs out.

  • Style
  • Mindset
  • Success
  • Dating
  • Success
  • Confidence
  • Grooming

Thanks for checking out the list guys, and if your blog has been featured, don’t forget to share the achievement with your followers on social media.

Do you have a favorite men’s self-improvement blog? Leave a comment below.

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30 Positive Thinking Quotes to Overcome Negativity

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30 Positive Thinking Quotes to Help Overcome Negativity

Today, in the world that we live in, there are a lot more people thinking negatively than there are thinking positively.

It’s sad really, that so many people are depressed with their lives; most of them because they just can’t quite see how great their lives would actually be if they changed their attitude and the way they think.

I’ve compiled a list of 30 positive thinking quotes, which you should definitely read to destroy and overcome negativity within you. It amazing how much of an affect quotes can have on someone’s mindset.

 

30 Positive Thinking Quotes

It may only take 1 of these positive thinking quotes to completely change your attitude about things. Only 1. But I can’t tell you which one that may be.

Sometimes certain words speak to certain people. Enjoy:

 

1. “Hate. It has caused a lot of problems in this world but has not solved one yet.” – Maya Angelou

2. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”  Thomas Edison

3. “We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.” – Robin Sharma

4. “I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.” – Muhammad Ali

5. “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” – W. Clement Stone

6. “The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.” – Unknown

7. “Whatever you want to do, do it now. There are only so many tomorrows.” – Michael Landon

8. “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.” – Dr. Wayne W Dyer

9. “We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” – Abraham Lincoln

 

10th of 30 Positive Thinking Quotes

“Minds are like flowers, they only open when the time is right.” – Stephen Richards

 

11. “Each problem has hidden in it an opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem. The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem and turned it into an opportunity.” – Joseph Sugarman

12. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” – Alice Walker

13. “The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” – Oprah Winfrey

14. “Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.” – Mary Tyler Moore

15. “The next time you feel slightly uncomfortable with the pressure in your life, remember no pressure, no diamonds. Pressure is a part of success.” – Eric Thomas

16. “All things are difficult before they are easy.” – Thomas Fuller

17. “Being miserable is a habit; being happy is a habit, and the choice is yours.” – Tom Hopkins

18. “I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.” – Douglas Adams

19. “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” – Mark Twain

20. “Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” – Groucho Marx

 

21st of 30 Positive Thinking Quotes

21. “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl

 

22. “You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It wont happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.” – Joel Osteen

23. “If someone tells you, “You can’t” they really mean, “I can’t.” – Sean Stephenson

24. “If you want light to come into your life, you need to stand where it is shining.” – Guy Finley

25. “The past has no power over the present moment.” – Eckhart Tolle

26. “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” – Anais Nin

27. “The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.” – Robert H Schuller

28. “I am thankful for all those who said no to me. It’s because of them I’m doing it myself.” – Albert Einstein

29. “Always think extra hard before crossing over to a bad side, if you were weak enough to cross over, you may not be strong enough to cross back!” – Victoria Addino

30. “You will evolve past certain people. Let yourself.” – Mandy Hale

 

Summary

I hope you enjoyed these 30 positive thinking quotes. Please don’t forget to share them with your friends and family by dropping them an email or sharing on Facebook, Twitter etc. Especially if you think today is a day that they will need to see these.

Stay positive!

Which were your favorite positive thinking quotes? Leave a comment below.

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Should Your Self-Improvement Start With You?

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Should Your Self-Improvement Start With You

The world’s perception of human psychology has changed and evolved a lot during the last couple of decades.

However, in spite of all this knowledge, a lot of people still mistakenly believe that self-improvement means reading a few books and then starting to change your life on your own. But the truth is that the discussion is a lot more nuanced than that.

Personal development can be pursued in a variety of ways, from joining support groups to following positive examples from your peers and so on. There are as many alternatives as there are people in the world, and we all have some sort of untapped potential just waiting to be explored.

 

The Reality of Being a Better You

It’s no secret that popular culture has been promoting the ‘better you’ concept for so long, it has now become a cliché of sorts.

And according to common myths on the topic, being the ultimate version of yourself means always performing bigger and better than others, and doing it constantly. However, such misconceptions are more of a drawback than anything else.

Buying into the generalizations and stereotypes sold by many self-proclaimed self-help experts can lead to massive burnouts caused by an excessive drive to always best other in everything.

In reality, self-improvement doesn’t imply anything of the sort. In order to not allow this way of thinking to harm your progress, you need to come to terms with the actual facts.

Although it is mostly true that any change, no matter how small, should come from inside you, it shouldn’t become a ‘me against the rest of the world’ type of endeavor.

This is a widely-encountered misconception that is, unfortunately, a clear recipe for disaster in most cases, and here’s why.

Constant rivalry brings nothing but trouble. Thus, instead of competing with others and constantly comparing yourself to them, you should try to learn from them. Other people who are in a similar position as yourself should be your allies, not your enemies. It’s easy to forget this when you’re faced with a challenge, so make a mental note of it right now.

 

Self-Improvement and Mental Illness

Although just about anyone can benefit from the positive effects of personal growth, it’s no secret that mental illness patients are one of the risk groups who need it most.

Regardless of whether you’re dealing with anxiety, clinical depression or even borderline schizophrenia symptoms, taking control of the situation on your own is a great source of comfort.

Due to this, self-improvement can be truly beneficial for those trying to come to terms with their disorders, especially when said disorders pertain to matters of the mind. And the first step lies in identifying your problems. What drives your negative behaviors and patterns of thought?

After you discover that, it’s a lot easier to pursue change.

Although medical resources in this area are scarce at the moment, there are still some out there that you can try. For example, Mental Health America has plenty of self-help tools readily available for those who struggle with poor mental health and want to pursue change on their own terms.  They come in the form of worksheets, actionable plans and so on.

Nevertheless, this doesn’t need to start with you, and you don’t have to go at it alone.

While it’s important that you keep the personal focus on this journey, there are external factors which can help you go through such a major development. In fact, studies show that joining self-help groups can be an important ally for anyone in this battle.

Participants’ tendencies for substance abuse and overall symptoms reduced in intensity over time thanks to this type of therapy, and so did the rate of hospitalization among them. This goes to show that self-improvement is something that can be externally motivated as well, and said motivation can be anyone: a friend, a family member, a partner or another group member.

 

How It Improves Your Life

So far, we’ve established how important taking control of your life can be when you struggle with mental illness, but also in general.

There are many ways in which self-improvement truly does a lot to change your life and pave your way towards success. Here are the most important three benefits of undertaking such an endeavor.

 

1. Self-Esteem Boost

When you’ve become determined to believe in yourself and your goals, beautiful things can happen. One of them is the fact that your self-esteem will grow before your very eyes. And motivation can come from anything: a book, a colleague or even your favorite TV show.

Use your surroundings as an example worth following and your dreams will become attainable.

 

2. Stability and Success

Setting yourself up for success every day from the moment you wake up until you go back to sleep is a classic and essential approach, but it’s also one that becomes impossible when your ambitions are low.

To begin following a steady route in life, you will need to welcome the power of self-improvement and accept that there are a lot of things that lead to it.

 

3. New Opportunities

When you’re stuck in a toxic loop, good things tend to avoid you because of your mindset. But when you open yourself to change and allow your mind to flourish and expand past its previous limitations, that’s when new opportunities appear as well.

Once they do, don’t be afraid to take them. It will be scary at first, but it will also be worth it in the long run.

Being brave enough to seize the day is one of the most important qualities a successful person can have. So, if that’s your goal, then you need to work hard for it and not let any sort of adversity bring you down.

The path towards becoming a better you is a rocky one, but the final destination will take your breath away.

 

Summary

Self-improvement has the potential to make you more confident, stable and successful, as well as open up a new world of amazing possibilities in front of your very eyes. But in order for this to happen, you will need to find the proper motivation to regain control of your life.

And while this certainly won’t be easy, the end results will be worth it.

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