How to Become An Alpha Male & Stop Being A Beta

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Ever wondered what makes men beta or alpha males?

Girls have an incredible ability to read body language and facial features. In most cases they can tell when you’re upset long before you say anything about it.

Scientists believe they develop these skills because it’s a woman’s nature to nurture. Girls also have slightly better hearing than men, so they can hear a wider range of sounds and detect the slightest changes in your voice.

Studies show that girls can read body language two to three times better than men so good luck trying to hide it. we live in a world that has caused a lot of men to develop a beta personality.

A lot of men have lost touch with their masculinity, and they’ve resorted to things like calling other guys names over the internet.

Guys also don’t meet face to face as much as they would have done in earlier times, due to advanced technology; and some guys are unknowingly displaying all the signs of a beta male.

Yet they wonder why they’re not getting attention from girls or why they can’t seem to get a girl for good.


5 Common Traits of Beta Males

If she says that your displaying the sides of the beta male, all hope is not lost. There’s a good chance that you simply have lost touch with your manhood. And it’s time to get it back.

The alpha male is the top-rated animal within his social group.

The major difference between alpha males among humans and alpha males in the animal kingdom is that humans must adopt the required mental state. Having huge muscles isn’t always important.

It helps of course, but in the real world even guys that are skinny can become alphas. You just need to understand the different traits that alphas and betas possess, and then switch from one to the other.

Here are 5 common traits of beta males:


1. The Nice Guy

A typical beta male is a nice guy. The problem is not being nice, no. The problem is that this guy is being too nice, too often. Even when he has absolutely no reason to be.

Everything in life comes down to moderation. It doesn’t matter whether it’s to do with being aggressive, or being passive. There are times when we all must be nice, but the difference is that the beta male feels he needs to be nice all the time.

Not because he naturally is a nice person, but because he feels this is the best way to behave to get everybody to like you. He’s nice to everyone, every time, in every situation, and that’s a problem.


2. Lack of Confidence

The second major sign of the beta male, is questioning your ability.

They lack the raw confidence present within alpha’s, and so they constantly second guess themselves. They also make excuses to not do something even if they can actually do it.

A great example of this is repeatedly asking the new girlfriend for approval. If the beta doesn’t even have confidence in his ability to dress himself, then how can we expect girls to trust him.


3. Putting the Needs of Everyone Else Before His Own

The 3rd common trait of the beta male is putting everybody else’s needs before his own. Again, as we mentioned before, success all comes down to moderation.

The problem is that when you can’t carefully choose when to put your own needs above other people’s, you are not taking care of yourself. And when you’re not taking care of yourself, how do you expect to take care of the women you love, or even attract her in the first place.


4. Worried About What Others Think

The 4th trait that the majority of beta males possess, is being worried about what people think far too often.

I used to do this all the time. And I was unable to have a stab at anything I thought I might enjoy, purely because I didn’t want to make a mistake and be laughed at.

At the end of the day, if you can get over this fear, then you’re on your way to becoming an alpha. The reason for this is because people without this fear are able to go after what they want, without hesitation. And they don’t back down if they suffer from setbacks.


5. Secretive & Does Not Make His Desires Known

The fifth sign of the beta male is that he is secretive, and doesn’t make his desires known to others.

Beta males are just like anyone else. They have desires, dreams, and career aspirations; however they always keep these things to themselves because they’re too afraid of to be judged by others. He lacks the confidence to share these aspirations with the rest of the world.


What If I Have Some of The Beta Male Traits?

Some guys only display one or two of these traits. However, in many cases, displaying just one of these traits makes it more likely that you possess all four.


5 Common Traits of Alpha Males

If you’re knowingly displaying the sides of the beta male, I’ve got good news for you. You can start working on yourself reclaim it would be called the alpha male. But first you need to understand what it actually means the alpha male.


1. Confidence

The number one thing that sets the alpha male apart from the beta is confidence. If you could master this single trait, most of the other requirements of the alpha will automatically fall into place.

The alpha thinks highly of himself in any situation. And he’s not always right or perfect but he believes in his ability, no matter what anyone says.


2. Not Easily Embarrassed

The second part of the alpha is that he’s not embarrassed easily. He doesn’t have to worry about other people’s opinions. And he’s not afraid to laugh at himself. The alpha is able to speak up, and even go against social norms, if necessary.


3. Masculinity

The third side of the alpha is masculinity. The alpha male is a real man. Real men come in all different shapes and sizes. They are leaders, and dominate with confidence around girls.

The alpha is not rude and he’s not a jerk, but he knows what he wants and he takes it.

With this state of mind he’s successful in those areas that beta males struggle with. The alpha is direct and honest. He’s never afraid to speak his mind, and he is direct with his communication.

The alpha male is also social, and has a dynamic personality that allows him to connect with many different types of people.


4. Isn’t Afraid to Take Risks

Another major characteristic that sets the alpha apart from the beta, is his ability to take chances.

He isn’t afraid to take big or small risks. He’s aware that success comes only from taking chances, which is why he’s not afraid to fail.


How to Become An Alpha Male

Now that you understand the differences between beta and alpha males, it’s time to become an alpha! You must learn some simple steps that’ll help you start transitioning into the role of the alpha:


1. Face Your Fears, Don’t Run From Them

To become the alpha male, you must deal with your fears and stop running from them. At the core of every beta male, you’ll find self-inhibition, and impassiveness.

Fear can appear in many forms:

Let’s say you want to approach a beautiful girl, but you start thinking about all those things that could go wrong. You then abandon the idea; and at that exact moment your fear has planted a seed inside your mind.

The next time you want to take the risk for yourself, and you’re too scared to do it; that little seed will grow, and grow. Over time, it will become so big that it’ll overwhelm your entire life.

Before you know it, the fear will have become so powerful, that approaching a beautiful girl will be impossible.

The crazy thing is that this giant tree of fear grew from some imaginary seed. The fear never really existed in the first place, but you gave it the power to live inside your mind.

To call yourself an alpha male, you must always deal with your fears. Never be afraid to speak up for yourself, even if you don’t necessarily need to.


2. Accept & Deal With Conflict

The second step to becoming an alpha is to be okay with conflict.

You will always have conflicts in your life. Doesn’t matter who you are or what kind of personality you have, conflict will find a way to appear. And when it does, you should know how to deal with it.

Instead of being aggressive, learn to recognize, accept and deal with conflict.


3. Get Over Yourself

The third step to becoming that alpha male is getting over yourself.

Basically what I mean by this is to stop being shy, feeling scared and feeling inferior. You can’t be an alpha when you’re constantly overthinking all these things, and letting small problems get into your head.


4. Learn to Be Assertive

The fourth step to developing the alpha mentality is learning how to be assertive. In other words, stand up for yourself without being aggressive or passive.

Many guys struggle to do this correctly. They either show aggression, which will make people doubt their intelligence. Or they’ll be act passively, which will make women doubt their ability to provide and protect.



Just because you don’t currently possess the traits of an alpha male, doesn’t mean you can’t become one. Hopefully this article has helped you to identify some of the areas where you might be tripping up, and improve them.

Here’s a quick recap on the 5 common traits of beta males:

  1. The nice guy
  2. Lack of confidence
  3. Putting everybody else’s needs before his own
  4. Worried about what others think
  5. Secretive & does not make his desires known

Here’s a quick recap of the 4 common traits of all alpha males:

  1. Confidence
  2. Not easily embarrassed
  3. Masculinity
  4. Isn’t afraid to take risks

And here’s a quick recap of the 4 steps to becoming an alpha male:

  1. Face your fears, don’t run from them
  2. Accept & deal with conflict
  3. Get over yourself
  4. Learn to be assertive

Are you trying to become an alpha male? Leave a comment below.

Dan Western
Dan Western
Dan Western is the founder of Wealthy Gorilla. Dan has been running Wealthy Gorilla and studying self-development, personal finance, and investment for the last 7 years. To this day, Wealthy Gorilla has become one of the fastest growing wealth infotainment sites in the world; with over 300 million views worldwide. Dan doesn't use personal social media anymore, so you won't be able to find him on Instagram, or Twitter.


  1. I’m no doubt a Beta male and fit into every category you described. I’m 66 y.o. is it too late for me to change? The 4 traits to becoming an alpha male are easier said than done. I want to change but i really don’t know how. What would you recommend?


    • Asking if you can change is one of the reasons you’re a bata male. Anyone can change. time effort and following these can turn you into an alpha at no time.


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