Having confidence in yourself is more than just having the courage to go ask out a random girl, which yes can be terrifying but there is a whole lot more to what confidence means for you.
Having confidence in yourself will literally play the biggest role throughout your life from your relationships to what kind of job you end up with and so much more.
There is no immediate self-confidence switch or pill that you can just take and become a new person, or at least none that I’ve heard of.
5 Small Steps to Boost Your Confidence
To change this, you have to change the way you think and this can be very difficult and can take some time, especially if you’ve fell into this habit of thinking a certain way about yourself for a long time.
Well, you’ve got to start somewhere so let’s look at some of the little things that you can do starting right now to have an effect on your self-confidence.
1. Start Wearing A Scent (Cologne Or Body Spray)
Adding some cologne to your daily grooming habits can actually make a pretty big impact on day to day life.
Think about it, you’ve found a great fragrance that you know smells awesome and we know that (most) women tend to find a man who smells good as a big plus.
By doing this, you should start receiving some compliments from the ladies, which in return will already start giving you a little boost to yourself.
Along with that, this can also be start up conversations for other guys you know by just having bro talk about which cologne that is and stuff of that nature, which is always a plus if you find yourself having a hard time making friends.
As a tip here, don’t go grab the first cologne that you see and pour it all over you, do some research and use it normally. Going overboard with a cologne can do more harm than good.
2. Work On Any Grooming Habits That You’re Self Conscious About
This can be little things such as you have issue that your teeth are not as white as they used to be. There are lots of different over the counter type of teeth whitening products in stores nowadays so go look into that.
Even if it doesn’t turn them pearly white, just a little bit can go along way with the effect on your mindset.
Note that I have zero idea how well those teeth whiteners work personally but I have heard some good things about them.
I can’t tell you exactly everything you should do here, but just focus on the things that tend to bother you the most, then work from there.
3. Start Exercising
Yea, you knew this would be here but how you look does have an impact on how you feel (for most people anyways).
I realize that getting in shape is not a quick tip but just hear me out.
You don’t have to get a six pack or even feel comfortable taking your shirt off to start gaining confidence, literally just going to the gym and knowing that you did something to impact on how you’ll eventually look is enough to get the motivation rolling.
If you don’t feel comfortable going to the gym then look into doing a home fitness program, there are tons of them out there nowadays!
4. Start Learning A New Skill
Self-confidence doesn’t just come from looks, there is also a really strong reward system set up in our brains for when we learn something new or do something that we thought we wouldn’t be able to.
This is setup, I’m assuming so that we continue to strive and better ourselves, which gives us that dopamine rush as a pat on the back type of reward.
Having more knowledge for how to do something is a in the moment type of confidence booster, by that I mean you may not always be in a situation where you can use that new skill (whatever it may be).
However, having the mental reassurance that you can do it, if there ever comes a time for it is a good thing.
5. Be Careful Comparing Yourself to Others
I’ll be the first to admit that competition is a great thing for most men and it is pretty much implemented inside our code to want to do better than other men in literally whatever we’re doing.
This leads to us naturally comparing ourselves to others who we’re competition with in all kinds of different ways, again not uncommon at all.
This can however have a negative effect on some men who have issues with their self-esteem already.
For example, take two guys who work together. One of them starts to hit them gym a little harder and this starts getting him a little more attention from the ladies at the office.
The other guy notices this and takes it as a challenge, which leads to him working out more as well. This is a fairly common type of scenario of where comparing yourself to someone wouldn’t be a bad thing necessarily.
However, if that same person already has self-confidence issues then it could just cause him to say to heck with trying to impress the ladies at the office, person A is going to get all of their attention anyway.
Finding a healthy competitive attitude here is key.
At the end of the day, it’s all about how you decide to face this inner challenge.
Reading all of the articles on the internet about getting in shape won’t have me looking better, at some point some action has to be taken to make things happen.
Just layout some sort of game plan in your head and try not to go from 0-100mph or you might find yourself burnt out way too quickly.
There are only so many hours in the day so don’t try to transform yourself overnight because we don’t have whatever they gave to Captain America.
The game plan is lay out some sort of mile stones in your overall goal, like losing 5lbs of fat as mile stone #1, which will eventually lead to mile stone #5 of seeing your abs.
These little mile stone victories can be a huge boost for yourself mentally!
I’ll end this article with this quote which seems like a good fit for it.
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb