I quit my job on Mar 22nd to start my online business based on meditation. I was excited and nervous. I did work everyday, building momentum as we are told to do as newbie entrepreneurs.
Then, I got nervous and highly impatient.
Things weren’t moving fast enough!
And the Sabotage Begins…
Why Self-Sabotage is An Entrepreneur’s Worst Enemy
I decided the best idea would be to obviously kick myself in the foot, by looking at drop-shipping and maybe starting an e-commerce store.
I signed up for an expensive course so that I would actually do the work. I worked on that in addition to my first business for two weeks.
As time went on, I decided that these two businesses weren’t cutting it, so I opened up some coaching slots, and put a gig on Fiverr to add to my lack of income.
This brings us to today. The main point of the diatribe above is that I am seriously my worst enemy. Sabotaging myself by taking on too much, getting impatient, worrying about income, and not believing in myself enough.
Self-Sabotage Is Very Common
That is the case for every entrepreneur.
So often we are so afraid of our own success, that we can become our own worst enemy. Everyone around us might be telling us we are awesome and we can achieve the goals for our business, if we just stay consistent with it.
But in our heads, the demons are all alive and well. They tell us we aren’t good enough, and we are foolish to believe in ourselves.
Even if we see success creeping towards us slowly, we attribute it all to a fluke, and start stamping down on the little flame of success as efficiently as we can.
The funny thing is that if we are careful of our mindset, we can actually be our best advocates. I mean, who else can believe as fervently in ourselves and our mission as us? No one truly can believe in your mission as as much as you.
There are three things I have found to be useful in preventing this spiral of self-sabotage:
1. Yoga (or Some Kind of Exercise)
You probably didn’t expect this one. But as Tony Robbins says, Psychology is physiology, and vice versa. Your psychology is so absolutely intertwined with physiology, it’s actually sometimes one and the same.
When you are feeling anxious, a run or a yoga session will help as much as a pep talk to yourself. Anxiety manifests in our bodies as an increased energy and restlessness. If you exercise, you are able to dissipate all of that nervous energy and come back to center.
Same with self-sabotage.
When we start thinking too much, or getting nervous about our mission, going for a quick run, Cross-fit lesson, or yoga practice, will help you dissipate all of that nervous energy. You will be able to come back to your work with a renewed vigor, mentally and physically.
Not only that, but you will feel much more grounded after a good sweat session, and you will be able to look at your work with a new perspective.
2. Meditation (or Some Mindfulness Practice)
Most of us are too afraid to sit down in silence and observe our true selves. This becomes especially true when we are in a state of distress due to fear of our chosen path. As is true with everything, this is when silence and meditation becomes particularly necessary.
Sitting down with our negative and damaging thoughts becomes a sort of exercise to help exorcise them from our minds. The minute we do that, we are able to see the truth clearly – we are afraid of being too successful, and we need to take a step back.
As soon as we would do that, all self-sabotage thinking drops away and clarity returns.
3. Worst-Case Scenario-ing
Whenever we are afraid of the future, it’s because we have made it up to be this sort of monster in our head. It is taking on proportions that are bigger than it really is.
As soon as you sit down, and write down on paper with a pen (or pencil), what is the worst thing that could possibly happen, you realize you were just being absolutely silly.
One of my random fears based on a recurring nightmare: Godzilla comes down and eats up all of your business ideas and leaves you destitute on the streets of Tokyo with no pants.
As soon as you are able to name your fear, you can pin it down as just something silly, meaningless, and so-not-scary. Writing it down is necessary because as long as its in our head, it is this horrible, huge, slimy monster.
As soon as you write it down, it becomes manageable, and small.
Let’s stop this cycle of self-sabotage. We can be so much more powerful, if we just let ourselves be. We spend so much time standing in our own way. Success can be ours, but if only we let it happen.